Why Men Do What They Do

Why do men do what they do? By: M. Breeze A close friend of mine (@darbae32) asked me a question today. She wanted to know the answer to a question that every woman has asked them selves at least once. For centuries women have asked the same question, "why do men do the stupid shit they do"? The answer is very simple, we don't feel that it is stupid. I mean really what is the problem here? So what if you think our friends are stupid, we like them and that's why they are our friend. If women would take the time out to figure out why they are different from us they may understand why we do what we do. I hear it from women all over the world and it's the same story no matter the race.  The biggest problem that the average woman faces from her spouse is infidelity. I don't need any scientific proof that men cheat because I know men who cheat on their spouses.  I see the pain that is caused by the cheating spouse and the lack of trust that is displayed by the spouse who was played. But ladies before you slice his tires and take a ride to the other woman's job, think and ask yourself what role did you play to make him destroy your relationship. This is what the average woman fails to look into. Examine yourself and your actions. Are you that same woman that he first met? Do you still put on the smell good lotions, get your hair done and keep your vaginal jungle under control? As silly as it may sound these may be the reasons that your guy chose you out of the rest of the women in the world. Do what you have to do to keep him interested in you.  Trust me ladies when I say that we guys can go out and come home late it doesn't mean that we are out having sex with other women. Truth be told we probably got hung up playing Madden and just lost track of time. Ever since he entered the relationship with you he has had to shun some of his friends just because you don't like them. You don't think about how this drastic feminine decision can make his friends hate him.  You fail to realize that he has broken the code bros over hoes, thus elevating you to a position that demands respect from the circle of bros. I believe that women don't understand why we do what we do and this is where the problems arise.   So we all know that the few bad guys ruin it for the good guys in the world. Every man knows what I'm talking about. We have all had that one lady that has been in a bad relationship and we already start the relationship under scrutiny. Where is the trust? Just because your last two boyfriends fucked you over it does not give you the right to treat the next one like shit. It's not fair to us or the next person in line. Ask yourself how are you in the bedroom? Are you boring or fun?Are you a missionary style girl or will you let a nigga wreck shop? Does he jump at the opportunity to get you undressed or do you feel that he doesn't appreciate you in bed? If you chose the latter of the two you guys have issues that stem from the bedroom, which will lead to other problems if left undressed. Let me assure you that what you won't do for him someone else will. A big problem in the African American community is that a lot of black women are not in touch with themselves sexually. Notice I did not say all of them but most. Alot of brothers have the idea that if my girl won't do it I'll find a white girl to. This bedroom issue can easily be resolved. Try watching a porn with your guy and imitate exactly what the actress is doing. Please him and let him see the freak in you and I guarantee he will start to respond more positively during sex.  I will follow this article with "why do women do what they do". I may even get a guest writer to do it.

What's Wrong with White Pride?

What's Wrong with White Pride?  By: M. Breeze Being an 6 foot 4 inch tattoo riddled African American man whose motto is "what I need a shirt for" I don't see the problem with being proud of who you are.  But in this country being ethno-centric is considered a problem. While I agree that believing that your race is better than another's is ludacris, what's wrong with believing in your self and trying to preserve your race? I'll be the first to admit that the black race is a long way from where we need to be. Some of it comes from the lack of opportunities that we were given, but most of it is simply our own fault.  I often hear my people saying that the "white man" is holding them back. They can't get a good job because of their lack of education.  I hear that white kids get better schooling than inner city blacks and that may be true but what is stopping you as a parent from moving your kids to those same schools so that they have a better opportunity? When will we accept the responsibilities that come along with being a human being? Quit blaming your problems on white people and take care of your business.  Let's look at my life in brief and how the odds were stacked against me. I was born in Louisiana in the early 80s and was raised during the crack epidemic. Born in a poor section surrounded by brokenness I often ran the streets trying to  make a easy dollar while trying to survive at the same time.  Not once was I taught to value another black persons life. Instead I was taught to bust a nigga head if someone ever tried me.  Where was the Black Pride that dominated the 60s and 70s? Where were our leaders, who did we have to look up too? Since we didn't have a Barack Obama and other leaders such as Reverends Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson were considered timid by the younger generation we often looked up to the only role models we see.....drug dealers. Even in high school I really wanted to attend college but a football injury ended my chances of a scholarship, which many black males, including myself, viewed as the only way to go to college. Being a smart young man I enlisted in the Military a few months before 9/11 knowing that the military would pay for my college. To make a long story short I'll be graduating in 4 months with my Bachelors degree in Human Resources.  You have to take control of your own destiny regardless of what others will think of you. Taking charge of your life allows you to pin your failures or success on yourself and no one else. When you succeed, succeed hard and when you fail, fail forward learn from your mistakes and keep your head up.  If you look at how white people raise their kids we can see that we raise our kids differently. We don't believe the same things and we each teach our kids differently. White kids are taught at an early age that they are smart, special and beautiful. How many black men have heard that they won't amount to shit, just like their fathers? How many black mothers are stressed out with the outcome of their lives and take it out on their kids? How many black parents teach their kids that being black is beautiful and that they can be whatever they put their minds to? So the next time you hear a white person hold a sign that says white power don't hate that person just recognize his boldness and try to install some sense of pride about your self! Be proud that you are a black person and take pride in your race. Do what you can to help others to reach their goals. What happened to your "Black Pride"? Where did it go? Play the hand that you were dealt and don't let em see you sweat! Keep your poker face on and lets get it!$